My take on Daddy/Dom Domestic/Discipline and Daddy/Daughter
What Is A Daddy Dom?
A Daddy & "Daddy's lil" girl" Ds relationship does not refer to
the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. (Cameron
just turned 20 years old) Nor does it
imply closet desires. A Daddy Dom does not replace one's father.
A “real” father can’t be replaced because of the
“history” and the genetic bonding. The Daddy/Daughter can make
their own history. A History much closer to what they both may
have wanted “history” to be.
He is however a Daddy.
The Daughter does not have to always or perhaps ever “act” the
part of a “little girl”. The Daddy does not disrespect her or
discount her or not validate her growth as a woman. She is not
a woman in a little girls “head” or a little girl in a woman’s
“head”. Outside people will more look at them and think “man,
does he ever adore her” rather than he is treating her in a
child like way. We we are out and about most
people think that I and Sassy Jane are her parents. She
does call me Dad or Daddy or perhaps even Chris.
A Daddy Dom does have the ability to make you
feel like a "little girl", however, a very cherished "little
girl". It is a feeling that is like no other, it is the safest
place a "little girl" has ever been, and it allows you the
freedom to be all that you are without fear of reprisals. Daddy
Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created.
A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses
and the service he provides.
So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?
A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your
He wants and needs to be the Alpha male until he
is replaced. BUT he can’t be replaced for what he is any more
than her real father can be replaced. He is not a husband or a
boyfriend thought there is some overlap.
He wants to be able to provide for your every
need and care. Not to control but so that the choice is there
for that if its needed or if you get in to deep and need the
more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the
image he thinks you should become. And/or the image that you
and he have of the person you want to be. He does not want to
make you what he wants he wants to help you become what you want
sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater
status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself.
He knows what you can do and what you can’t or
don’t want to do. Status means as a Mother, Friend, Sister,
Daughter, How high can you go and how high can he help you go
towards becoming the best and most successful person.
What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of
you, the image he has created. To achieve these goals he relies
on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.
His love for his "little girl" goes without
saying. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will
become with his guidance. She is his prized possession. His
eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great
pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She
holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest
power to hurt him.
Because in her mind and heart they are one and because she has
given t him her life and her heart and it was done by free will
he can also loose it.
This love would not be possible without respect.
A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his "little girl". He needs
to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still
submit to him.
His first reasonability, in fact, to make sure
she can survive, make good decisions, provide for herself and
survive the loss of him. Not the loss of his love because that
He holds the greatest respect for the gift
she has given him and takes great pains to increase its value.
It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man
and she chooses to be with him.
And more so that it’s a choice she has made to be with him. He
knows three are “wanta bees” and flawed men that pull at her
heart strings and that she pays a price to give him that gift.
He knows that this makes discipline a priority in
their lives, more important than in some other D/s
relationships. In order for the "little girl" to really trust,
she must know he means what he says. If his "little girl" is
going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He
uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide
proper direction and punishment when the need arises.
The punishment or discipline is not “made up” or
“pretend” or “play”. Her real punishment is knowing that she as
disappointed him. She is willing to take the discipline to
atone for her misbehaver. But what she really wants first to
feel accepted and loved even when she “slips” up. Some aspects
of the spanking is not so much discipline and is more or even
much more a game they play regarding “getting away” with
something and no getting caught or in fact getting caught. She
has the freedom to “take a chance” or “be a risk taker”. She
can ask herself if the punishment is worth the risk and still
know he will love her and accept her and even be proud of her
for “taking” the risk. She will be spanked, yes for a rule is a
rule but he respects her for have the confidence to try and
“get what she wants” and moving outside the control in a “agreed
If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a
tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate
him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the
ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it
becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do
This takes great strength on his part. It takes
strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and
desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder,
It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he
wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength
to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.
A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to
his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he
knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When
she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty
little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.
Not just beautiful in the sense of face or body. But even
more so beautiful in the sense of “who and what she is”. He
could never love her as he does if she was not flawed. Its her
flaws that draw him to her like a moth to the flame.
Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive.
Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and
feeding their sub missive's masochism. This balance is necessary
to many "little girls" because it allows all parts of her to be
nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.
I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking
on the role of male authority figure in the sub missive's life
and using their power to enrich that life. A Daddy & "little
girl" Ds relationship verbalizes that feeling, and adds a
dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants
There is something infinitely magical about a
Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can
its only something a “real woman” can truly
appreciate Or perhaps, just perhaps and understand